What’s wrong with being married?

One fine afternoon, a friend buzzed me on YM. She was full of rage and anger. She needed to talk. She was mad at her husband. Reason being, they are a bit short of money this month and the hubby had to go for an out-station. Thus, the hubby quietly used the supposedly-the-car-installment-money for the out-station trip. The problem arises due to the car was named after her sister, hence in a way, they both actually owe the sister the-car-money. I don’t think it is a problem if she were to know it from the start. But, because her hubby didn’t tell her out front, only there and then the problem became BIGGER. While the hubby’s out, she ‘ikat-perut’ just so that she have extra money for backups if anything were to happen and to make things worst, she borrowed another RM100 from the same sister.

This is just an example of a problem that occurred in a marriage. But, this tiny-winy problems can actually creates a bigger arguments and fights. It can also become a WAR.

I mean, even myself I have experienced something similar. Until, come to a point where you just tend to ask yourself what is wrong with the both of you. We used to be so lovey-dovey. We used to do a lot of things together. How come it is so hard for us to compromise each other? What went wrong? Somehow, after being married we tend to find faults in each other. Marriage is definitely not easy. Marriage is something that you have to put a lot of hard work to it. Marriage is a full time job. A lot of sacrifices needed to be made. Lots and lots of patience between both parties, understanding, needs to accept the other half as it is and needs to always be considerate. There is never an easy way out to the problems that took place. One needs to calm down, think straight and discuss. That is why; in a marriage there is a need to have 2 ways communication. That is the most important basic thing to have.

To my dearest friend, there are always ups and downs in a relationship. From all the disagreement that we have between our husbands and us, that is actually the point where we get to know more of him each day. Just imagine, two different people, with different background and way of living, staying together in one house is definitely not easy. Let alone, we can quarrel with our own sibling in which is our own flesh and blood. Moreover, our husband who we just get to know few years, months, days before we married. What do we really expect from it? Total understanding? Dream on. Hehe…

I guess, this is something for all of us to ponder upon. If we were to have tribulations between ourselves, try as much as you can to talk it out, discuss, be it putting into points, pros and cons whatsoever, just do not give up. So long, you could put your pride aside for a while. I suppose everything should be able to turn out fine. Doesn’t mean we are a loser just to give in to our loved ones, does it? I think, we are the winner because we are brave enough to make the first move and say sorry. One day, you will know that it is all worth it. Believe me!!!